ok found out what the problem was... some reason the software doesn't like Vista I used my sisters Win XP laptop and it connects like a charm! just need tune my startup now, but still would like to update the firmware if it cleans up some bugs.
will this V1.21 Firmware work with my 1012 ecu?
Do not use the 1.21 firmware, that is specifically for our 30-1220 EMS. Stick with the 1.19 firmware.